The Secret to Success and Happiness:
Being Positive helps you to cope with Stress. People who are positive have better control of their lives and consequently better at Problem Solving and Creative Thought Processes.
Stress ranks number 2, after the consumption or exposure of certain kinds of foods and harmful substances, as the major cause of heart disease and cancer. Studies showed that people with good Stress Management Strategies or who generally have a Happy Predisposition are generally less likely to suffer from heart attacks.
Reducing Stress helps to build up your immunity system resulting in less frequent bouts of coughs and colds etc.
Symptoms of Stress include:
- Eating problems.
- Muscle aches and pain.
- Memory problems.
- Mood Swings.
- Difficulty in Thinking clearly and Making Good Decisions.
- Lack of Energy.
- Chest pain, irregular heartbeat.
- High blood pressure or Hypertension.
- Weight problems.
- Asthma or shortness of breath.
- Skin problems.
- Decreased sex drive.
Think (and more importantly, Visualize) Positive Things You Want in Your Life.
In the Visualization Technique, you use Mental Imagery and Positive Thinking to achieve your Goals. When you repeatedly and intensely reflect on the thoughts, images and feelings associated with your goals, you begin accept the fact that the goal can, not only be achieved, but that it is fait accompli. This strong conviction that you can 100% achieve your goals, allows you to open your mind and notice in your everyday life the information, guidance, ideas, insights, and inspirations that will make your goals a reality. With preparedness of mind, you will be ready, and more importantly have the courage, to seize opportunities that may come your way. Your resolve will be hard to break and no one will be able to stop you from your predestination. You will be mentally prepared to pay the price to make your goal a reality as success is seldom a free lunch.
It is similar to the Concept of Prayer where you believe that the Almighty will intercede and make your Prayers come true because of your strong Faith in Him. In prayer too, you will have a price to pay as a weak prayer equals a weak Divine Intervention or even no Intervention at all.
Avoid Reading, Watching or Listening to depressing News, Movies and Music.
Although such news or entertainment may not impact on you directly, it has a way of creeping into your sub-conscious mind and weighing down on your thought process and consequently on the way you are likely to think or behave. It can also result in mood swings.
Some pop, rock, rap music may seem like love songs. But in reality, they are sometimes about committing suicide or even murder. Genres like metal, punk, emo rock and rap music have a preoccupation with such themes.
One famous example is the song called “Without You” which was widely covered by many well known artistes including Mariah Carey, Air Supply, Clay Aiken. The song was number one Billboard hits for Harry Nilsson (1971) and Mariah Carey (1994). Coincidentally, Mariah Carey’s “Without You” was released just one week after Harry Nilsson died of a heart attack at the age of 52. Mariah Carey suffered a nervous breakdown in 2002 as a result of a failed relationship. Clay Aiken recorded “Without You” and “Invisible” after his success in “American Idol”. His “claymates” deserted him when he confessed he was gay.
The song was originally written and recorded by the Beatles’ protégés – the “Badfinger” in 1970. The chorus of Badfinger‘s “Without You”:
“I can’t live, if living is without you
I can’t give, I can’t give anymore
I can’t live, if living is without you
I can’t give, I can’t give anymore”
trademarked their preoccupation with loss, grief, regret and hopelessness. The two creative members of Badfinger (Pete Hams & Tom Evans) who wrote the song subsequently committed suicide by hanging in what was one of the most bizarre and heartbreaking stories in the annals of pop music. During their brief career, the band received much critical acclaim and their music shone like a brilliant beacon in the bleak landscape of the post-Beatles period. Badfinger was hailed as the successors to the Beatles throne and was expected to be the standard bearers of pop music now littered with the corpses of rock icons of the late 60s. Alas, this was not to be. Badfinger themselves fell victim to the excesses of the 70s. Badfinger’s financial problems with their manager and the consequent legal entanglements made the lawyers the only ones who were enriched by their work. These plus their pessimistic outlook in life made them one of rock and roll’s most famous tragic stories. It is interesting to note that Badfinger’s biggest hit, a Paul McCartney of the Beatles song “Come and Get It” predicted their financial problems to come:
“…..Did I hear you say that there must be a catch?
Will you walk away from a fool and his money?
If you want it, here it is
Come and get it
But you better hurry ’cause it’s going fast…..”
They could have recovered from their financial loss by writing new songs. But instead, they chose to immortalize their grief.
The band got their name from a John Lennon demo song called “Bad Finger Boogie” (an early version of “With A Little Help From My Friends“). John Lennon alluded to playing piano with “his bad finger” ie. playing piano with his middle finger after hurting his forefinger. John Lennon was shot dead by a crazed fan in 1980 because he wanted “to steal John Lennon’s fame”. John Lennon wrote a tongue-in-the-cheek Beatles song “Happiness is a Warm Gun” which was unfortunately highly fatal for him. This cautionary tale of Badfinger and Lennon tells us to Be Careful What We Wish For, for we could get it – but not in the way we had intended.
Slow Down and Learn to Enjoy Life.
Learn to smell the roses.
Enjoy the sunset.
Partake in little pleasures that do not have harmful side effects.
Pursue a hobby with a consuming passion.
Pray or meditate a little.
Read, Watch or Listen to inspirational works.
Focus on the Important Aspects of Your Life – like health.
Don’t let the grind of your daily life wear you down. Take more breaks or simply take more time to have happy thoughts by yourself or with the ones you love. Have Vacations that do not burn a hole in your pocket or leave you more tired than reinvigorated.
Learn to Laugh.
Laughter is the best medicine. Be excessively and unreasonably happy. When you laugh heartily, you take in more oxygen and increase nature’s very own anti-oxidant in your body.
“When we laugh, natural killer cells which destroy tumors and viruses increase, along with Gamma-interferon (a disease-fighting protein), T-cells (important for our immune system) and B-cells (which make disease-fighting antibodies). As well as lowering blood pressure, laughter increases oxygen in the blood, which also encourages healing.” – “Science of Laughter” Discovery Health Website.
There is lots of research to back up my advice:
- Laughter activates the Immune System
- Laughter reduces the Stress Hormones (or stressors)
- Laughter relaxes the Muscles
- Laughter reduces Pain
- Laughter increases Blood Flow as much as exercise does
- A Cheerful Disposition can lengthen your Lifespan, regardless of age, weight, or smoking habits
- Laughter helps Diabetics process Blood Sugar better
- Positive Temperament can help you see Life’s Bigger Picture
Research shows that laughter creates bonding within a group. So laugh in a group, it’s contagious. Share this YouTube video with others and strengthen bonds of friendship.
How to Make Yourself Laugh
- Laugh at Yourself
- Laugh with Others
- Make Fun of Your Fears
- Remember A Hilarious Moment
- Look for Light Hearted Things in Everyday Life
- Collect Joke Books
- Watch a Funny Movie or Video
Don’t Watch This YouTube video If You Don’t Want To Laugh.
Learn to Be Grateful.
Show outward manifestations of Gratitude. Say “Thank You” more often. Write and send more “thank you” notes. You will make at least two people happy – yourself and the recipient of your “thank you”. Say thank you and most of the time you be rewarded with a smile. That said, you should be warned that some people are incapable of saying “thank you” or giving a smile. But don’t let that discourage you. You’ve done good. Give yourself a pat in the back. You are on the way to Success and Happiness.